I can’t believe that a father would want his daughter walking on eggshells in her own home. Oh well. Divorce truly stinks.

However, if the rule is for the children to use the small bathroom, then that’s the rule. It doesn’t have to make sense to the children, they need to respect your rule simply because you’re the parent. I wonder how old the children are. If your step-daughter is considerably older, it may be necessary for her to not be in the kid zone. Of course, you’ll have to let it be known that items need to remain in order or it will be back to the other bathroom. Do you have the support of her father, because he can always let her know that (if she doesn’t respect the space) she is not entitled to use the adult’s bathroom anymore. Don’t let yourself be the ‘bad step-mom’, let him be the good dad.

Try to come to an agreement with her. Say she can use the bathroom as long as she does her part to keep it organized, and make clear to her what she can and cannot use. As long as some ground rules are in place, then it’s clear who is doing wrong. If she breaks the rules, then fair enough, ban her from your bathroom. But if she sticks to an agreement, then I think it’s fair she should be allowed to use it. As long as you both know where you stand, then there shouldn’t be any unjustified arguments.

Also, I think you should take it as a compliment that she obviously likes your clothes and make-up. That kind of suggests she looks up to you, would even like to be like you. At least you can agree on tastes. Just talk to her, because you seem to have far more in common than you realise.

My son uses our master bathroom to take showers and stuff. My 10yr old daughter uses it to dry her hair with our hair dryer. One I saw that someone clearly was playing with my make up and other things I put my foot down.

I show it to them and explained that I haven’t used them in awhile but someone had opened the powder and spilled it, someone had opened some perfume (smelled up the whole bathroom) & someone had dug into some eye shadow.

They both did the "I didn’t do it!" & my son "Why would I?" but I explained how they were the last two people in there and I wasn’t happy with what I saw.

From now on when they are in there I make the door stay open. When my son showers or something in there he is allowed to shut the door but as soon as the shower turns off & he is dressed the door is back opened.

Talk to your husband about this since it is his daughter.

It’s YOUR home, regardless of his children coming to visit, don’t let her make your home a hell~hole.